“He’s super cute and nice but…I don’t date short guys”
I can’t express how hard I want to laugh when I hear a girl say this.
After ALL of the crap we give guys about appreciating us for the unique angels we think we are, we sit around saying this nonsense, with almost NO hesitation, to our friends, at dinner tables, and worse of all…to guys we know.
It’s awful. Epically awful.
Now don’t get me wrong…we all have “a type.” You are entitled to liking whatever it is that you want.
But ladies, we have been BATTLING to eradicate body shaming for years and years now, and we are making some major progress, we really are. There’s a long list of things that men are just not allowed to say about us and our bodies in public domain. So then why should it not go both ways?
Just because historically body shaming has been directed towards females by men AND women, doesn’t mean we get a break when we do it. I’m not saying it’s wrong to feel this way about dating shorter men, I’m saying it’s horrible, awful, and hypocritical to be saying this stuff out loud.
The measurement of a man is not in how tall he is, it’s in how much he measures up in your life. He may not stand tall, but does he stand up for you and the people he loves? Does he support you? Does he bring things to your metaphorical table? Those are the things that should matter.
Once again, I’m not saying you should want to date short guys… just stop saying it without realizing the double standard you are very openly playing into. Stop saying it because you are basing someone’s value on something they have no control over. Stop saying it because your words are hurting other human beings.
And come on…We know how it feels when people do this to us, when they make us feel like less of a woman because we have small breasts, non-existent hips, short legs etc. So let’s stop trying to instill the cycle of insecurity that has held us back for centuries onto men. We all know where that leads.
For the first time in a long time, many guys are working on themselves and their friends…challenging each other to be better partners and allies to us. Don’t you think we owe them the same respect?
Gentlemen, if a girl says this to you or around you in any way shape or form…avoid her. And if she SAYS she doesn’t want to date you because of your height, let me be the first to say: Congratulations. You dodged a very basic bullet.
Oh, and ladies, if one of your friends is dating an amazingly great guy who is barely taller, just as tall as, or <heaven forbid> shorter than her, and you feel the need to bring that up publicly as a “con” when discussing their relationship…please hand in your “opinion card” because you’re no longer allowed to have one on this issue.
With men beginning to step up to the plate on issues like gender equality, it’s becoming harder and harder to excuse women who perpetuate these double standards. And remember…I’m a girl’s girl…I WANT to be on your side. But ladies, we are wrong on this one. Very very wrong…so it’s about time we start treating the men in our lives with the very same BASIC decency we have been fighting for for the past few hundreds/thousands of years.